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This is common throughout the Middle East. Along with things like sincerely fighting to pay for the bill when going out to eat with friends. It becomes part of

This is common throughout the Middle East. Along with things like sincerely fighting to pay for the bill when going out to eat with friends. It becomes part of the social game, and can be quite fun to take part in We move you start to understand the rules. But is confusing at hell if you’ve arrived from an Anglo culture.

OkayPhysicist 3y ago
Fighting over who gets to pay the bill is pretty common among Anglo American groups, at least in my experience East coast middle-to-upper class social circles.
chankstein38 3y ago
Calling paying for a bill "quite fun to take part in" made me chuckle. I'd rather play the game where someone else ends up paying because they put that much thought into it. If I'm treating someone I'll happily pay but if I'm at a restaurant with a bunch of people and someone is making it their mission to pay for my meal, I'm not going to fight it!
- willcipriano 3y ago
  I'd rather buy everyones meal than owe one to someone else. Being paid for feels infantilizing to me. Often the person with the highest status pays, by accepting being paid for you are accepting your role beneath them.
  - chankstein38 3y ago
    lol if you play that ridiculous game, sure. The reality is everyone goes on with life and, if someone thinks of it again "Hey you owe me dinner after last month!" they're the asshole. It's different if I forced them to pay for my dinner but if they just paid because they're paying then I don't understand why people overthink it like you are.
  - howdydoodyy 3y ago
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  - zogrodea 3y ago
    I felt like that meme "they had us in the first half, not gonna lie" on reading this comment. I initially thought, on reading your first sentence, that you are trying to be nice/kind to others by paying for them, but then the rest of the comment gave the opposite impression, making it sound like you're infantilising the other person/trying to avoid an unpleasant feeling on your part by pushing it onto someone else.

OkayPhysicist 3y ago

Fighting over who gets to pay the bill is pretty common among Anglo American groups, at least in my experience East coast middle-to-upper class social circles.

chankstein38 3y ago

Calling paying for a bill "quite fun to take part in" made me chuckle. I'd rather play the game where someone else ends up paying because they put that much thought into it. If I'm treating someone I'll happily pay but if I'm at a restaurant with a bunch of people and someone is making it their mission to pay for my meal, I'm not going to fight it!

willcipriano 3y ago
I'd rather buy everyones meal than owe one to someone else. Being paid for feels infantilizing to me. Often the person with the highest status pays, by accepting being paid for you are accepting your role beneath them.
- chankstein38 3y ago
  lol if you play that ridiculous game, sure. The reality is everyone goes on with life and, if someone thinks of it again "Hey you owe me dinner after last month!" they're the asshole. It's different if I forced them to pay for my dinner but if they just paid because they're paying then I don't understand why people overthink it like you are.
- howdydoodyy 3y ago
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- zogrodea 3y ago
  I felt like that meme "they had us in the first half, not gonna lie" on reading this comment. I initially thought, on reading your first sentence, that you are trying to be nice/kind to others by paying for them, but then the rest of the comment gave the opposite impression, making it sound like you're infantilising the other person/trying to avoid an unpleasant feeling on your part by pushing it onto someone else.