It's wild how many people can't seem to wrap their heads around the very simple framing of tolerance as a contract. We have chosen to engage in tolerance, which

It's wild how many people can't seem to wrap their heads around the very simple framing of tolerance as a contract. We have chosen to engage in tolerance, which means that we will BOTH be tolerant of each other. Once you engage in intolerance, the contract is broken. We are now not BOTH tolerant, so the contract of 'tolerance' has become void. It's not that I can't tolerate intolerance. It's that the logical structure of 'tolerance' is terminated when any of the active parties stop participating. I'm not 'intolerant of your intolerance'; I'm no longer affording you coverage of the contract that you voided until you engage in earnest action toward repairing that relationship, at which point you will be eligible for reinstatement to the contract parties. Anyway, your pool analogy is great! It's just frustrating that people even need it. =/