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>Every human is good at something. I dunno man, some would accuse you of invalidating their suffering by offering such a statement.

em-bee 3y ago
but you are suffering because others, or even you yourself can't recognize what you are good at, so how does that invalidate your suffering?
- michaelt 3y ago
  If I meet a guy with no legs and my first reaction is to highlight the strengths of great parking spaces and saving money on trousers, he might see that as me failing to acknowledge the reality of his situation.
  - defrost 3y ago
    Maybe. Also possible they might actually laugh and counter with their own upside to being leg incomplete joke and welcome you for not looking away like so many others do. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Last_Leg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Last_Leg Cracking jokes with amputees is a real minefield ~ Invictus Games Opening Speech https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus_Games https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus_Games
    - swayvil 3y ago
      Fact is, there's no way to keep a person from being offended if they want to be. No logic, no evidence. And this is an attitude that is freakishly respected these days. Whole groups of people validating each other's offendedness. And even getting offended on behalf of people they never met. And to belong to a class of people widely known to be in a permanent state of offendedness, and unassailably so, and generally respected as such, is a highly desirable and sought-after position. The maniacs have taken over the asylum.
      - em-bee 3y ago
        and all i had in mind was something like: oh damn, you are really in a rough spot. i'd like to help you figure out what options you have left. there has to be something useful that you can contribute.
    - PaulHoule 3y ago
      Funny, I made some collages of images from the Ukraine MoD about as soon as Russian attack last year and a lot of them were of the Ukraine delegation to the Invictus Games which were really remarkable.

em-bee 3y ago

but you are suffering because others, or even you yourself can't recognize what you are good at, so how does that invalidate your suffering?

michaelt 3y ago
If I meet a guy with no legs and my first reaction is to highlight the strengths of great parking spaces and saving money on trousers, he might see that as me failing to acknowledge the reality of his situation.
- defrost 3y ago
  Maybe. Also possible they might actually laugh and counter with their own upside to being leg incomplete joke and welcome you for not looking away like so many others do. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Last_Leg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Last_Leg Cracking jokes with amputees is a real minefield ~ Invictus Games Opening Speech https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus_Games https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus_Games
  - swayvil 3y ago
    Fact is, there's no way to keep a person from being offended if they want to be. No logic, no evidence. And this is an attitude that is freakishly respected these days. Whole groups of people validating each other's offendedness. And even getting offended on behalf of people they never met. And to belong to a class of people widely known to be in a permanent state of offendedness, and unassailably so, and generally respected as such, is a highly desirable and sought-after position. The maniacs have taken over the asylum.
    - em-bee 3y ago
      and all i had in mind was something like: oh damn, you are really in a rough spot. i'd like to help you figure out what options you have left. there has to be something useful that you can contribute.
  - PaulHoule 3y ago
    Funny, I made some collages of images from the Ukraine MoD about as soon as Russian attack last year and a lot of them were of the Ukraine delegation to the Invictus Games which were really remarkable.