Agreed. However, I also think that help does tend to "materialize" if you end up needing it. I've noticed that couples who make a lot of "wrong" decisions (e.

Agreed. However, I also think that help does tend to "materialize" if you end up needing it. I've noticed that couples who make a lot of "wrong" decisions (e.g., financially, timing wise) end up getting help while couples who make the "right" decisions seem to get less help. And both types of couples end up with almost the same outcome.