I fully understand this, as it is hapenning to me. I tried looking at it from the partner's perspective: At the outset when optimism was high, the mind can wor

I fully understand this, as it is hapenning to me. I tried looking at it from the partner's perspective: At the outset when optimism was high, the mind can work in wonderful ways to spend all that cash. But it can take a very long time to realise. Maybe not even in this project. I always end up questioning the motivation of the partner. Cash, a house, holidays, clothes... this is all very well, except it ignores the elemnt of risk that lies at the heart of any venture. That risk at the end of the day has to be shared by a partner. It is what it is love me, love my dog. If the partner was not prepared to share the risk ( and not have all those fancy things when it didn't happen at this point in time) then this is tantamount to misleading me (you) over a time. I don't know if you can agree with this, of course being in the centre it's hard often to rationalise.