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My experience was that you will never feel "ready" to have kids, you just close your eyes and go for it. I think it is a good idea to look at finances and rela
by beardedwizard 3y ago
My experience was that you will never feel "ready" to have kids, you just close your eyes and go for it.
I think it is a good idea to look at finances and relationship health; but beyond that I'm not sure much else matters.
It's almost the same as marriage - and your comment is insightful in that when given the choice humans will almost never choose to change, being "selfish" feels great while you are doing it.
- etrautmann 3y agoThat’s exactly my experience (typing with an eight week old sleeping on my chest. I can’t imagine feeling 100% ready before, but the 9 months leading up to the delivery is time to mentally shift and prepare for the enormous change.
- bevesce- 3y agoI don't understand why selfishness comes in this context. I'm considering if and when have children because not doing it would be reckless and egoistical playing with somebody else's life
- beardedwizard 3y agoSure, it's ok to feel that way too.