I agree very strongly with this. Honesty with the kids and clear explanations and options are a big help. I did this once in the 90s with my first kids. I'm cu

I agree very strongly with this. Honesty with the kids and clear explanations and options are a big help. I did this once in the 90s with my first kids. I'm currently raising my granddaughter and it's a much different scene. So far I'm still figuring it out but I have a couple of tips I could share. One that seems to work the same is to make sure they've got options. Now what I mean by that is they need to be able to bring it to me rather than me find out about it or get it from them. So what i did, is make damn sure that when they bring something to me we talked through it work it out and it's going to be less painful, if it has to be painful at all, then it would be otherwise. So the incentive is clear take that shit to Papa let's find out what we have to do. Another one, that appears to be a little bit harder today is to give them safe computing options. One really easy example is typing a URL into a browser, rather than the address bar. There are many others, you get the idea. Local devices seem to complicate this, but in the 90s I made sure the internet facing computer gear wasn in common rooms. That way it was a family activity, and that was really good for building trust sharing experiences and all the other good things that need to happen to have a healthy dialogue between parents and child. I may have more to say on this later, but I'm off to read all the other great comments.