The trick is to have a genuine respect, interest, and empathy for another person's approach, even if you disagree. If you just take a superficial facsimile of

The trick is to have a genuine respect, interest, and empathy for another person's approach, even if you disagree. If you just take a superficial facsimile of what is suggested, without the actual respect and empathy, it will sound like bullshit as you say: it is. But stopping to condition yourself to be empathetic first is a way of, I guess, bootstrapping that respect and empathy. It's a low bar that people frequently don't clear.