Weird, I perceive these the opposite of how you do. "Why didn't you do it this way?" I trust that you considered many alternatives. Can you tell me your though

Weird, I perceive these the opposite of how you do. "Why didn't you do it this way?" I trust that you considered many alternatives. Can you tell me your thoughts about the decision you arrived at? “have you thought about this approach?” You probably couldn’t imagine this possibility, let me do it for you. Checkmate! I can also see how they could each be interpreted in the opposite directions. I’m betting it’s more about the contextual body language and tone they’re delivered with than the words/sentences themselves that matters, which I just don’t see being that different once you look behind them to see the gist of the message. That’s the double edged sword of text-only communication: you can choose to interpret everything charitably, but you can also infer a condescending tone even if it wasn’t intended. Expecting people to wordsmith to your individual taste is just asking for otherwise fine coworkers to be mind readers.