I'm not sure if you meant to disagree with something I said, but I think I agree with you here. It's not a harmless faux pas, it's making qualified people uncom

I'm not sure if you meant to disagree with something I said, but I think I agree with you here. It's not a harmless faux pas, it's making qualified people uncomfortable. I'm just afraid that dealing with this a certain way will lead to people being uptight. Trying to communicate with the people about what was wrong, as you suggest, sounds like a good idea. Assuming instilling good taste is a viable option for such people, perhaps if someone helps them distinguish disrespectful from edgy-but-respectful, they can safely stay on the other side of it.