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Which is fair if you don't like your job or don't get intrinsic satisfaction from making more money/increasing your lifestyle. If you're working full time and

Which is fair if you don't like your job or don't get intrinsic satisfaction from making more money/increasing your lifestyle. If you're working full time and struggling to put food on your table, that probably means you're trapped in one of the various poverty traps or financial spirals like healthcare costs that plague this country. These are very hard to get out of and telling ordinary people to just be the kind of extraordinary person who can escape that situation is not just utterly useless but also counterproductive. We point to the folks that have either through extraordinary skill or effort or luck gotten out of those situations and use them to justify perpetuating broken and exploitative systems that trap people in poverty and debt by claiming that clearly people can get out. "Just take a look at your debt" is among the most infuriating things you could say to someone in that situation. Oh it's that easy is it? Just "look at my debt"? Ive gotten enough exposure to the flip side, the lender side, of these stories to see how we (meaning literally the people I went to school with) deliberately engineer these systems to exploit you. You're not just "looking at your debt." You have to escape a system engineered by Yale lawyers and Wharton mbas and internet grifters and psychologists and marketers and financiers and salespeople and mortgage companies and private equity (who owns your land, hi appolo!) and Berkshire Hathaway (who owns your mobile home) and hospital administrator and so so so so many other people

gabereiser 3y ago
We are all presented the same choices (granted from different levels of privilege) and we all make decisions. Health care costs are ridiculous, I agree, and people shouldn’t go broke if they get sick. That said, they shouldn’t be eating garbage and things that make them sick. You can’t complain that your finances are drained from cancer all while your whole life you ate Taco Bell and McDonalds. Choices have consequences. Debt is a result of that. There’s really only two maybe three kinds of good debt. Everything else is a salesman trying to get you roped into a payment scheme like you describe. It’s the ultimate bazaar, backed by the lawyers and justice system saying you agreed to pay. Don’t agree to pay for things. Stop buying crap off Facebook. Buy a used car instead of making payments on a new one. Love yourself and stop trying to keep up with the neighbors.
- earthling8118 3y ago
  I see this take as completely out of touch. It seems like you come from an entirely different world. Have you ever had to use the McDonald's apps for deals cheap enough to afford dinner? I love to cook and it generally saves me a lot of money but I've still been put in this situation before. Not eating garbage? That's a luxury not everyone can afford. Yes, many can afford it and still do so but that isn't all that is happening. When it comes to debt sometimes you have to. I had the option to stay where I was where I would still be making <$10/hr or take on student loan debt for a chance to have a better life. I drive a hunk of junk I paid $300 that makes me feel unsafe every time I get in it. It wobbles to hell and I have to deathgrip it to maintain control. It's probably endangering everyone on the road too. But that's what I can afford at this point in my life. Although I'd rather not own one at all because it causes a lot of financial stress to maintain. I don't buy much beyond the essentials and it's taken me a decade of constant effort to get to even this point. I've also been incredibly fortunate in many ways. There are a lot of people much worse off.
  - gabereiser 3y ago
    I grew up poor, by every measure I still am. However, I don’t have the debt that others do. It’s actually cheaper to eat healthy than eat McDonald’s. I’m not talking Non-GMO, certified organic overpriced food for a guilt sale. I mean cans, beans, rice, flour, etc. Those who are struggling are continuing to attempt to do the same thing and it isn’t working for them. If you worked hard for a decade, without getting anywhere, whose fault is that? Society for keeping you down? Or you for staying so long? Everything is constant effort. I’m not talking FIRE movement, I’m just saying you don’t need that TV. You don’t need that Apple Watch. You don’t need that Tesla. I realize making atonement for your financial troubles is going to hurt even more. The other option is, like many here, start a company. I do know that it was extremely painful for me to become debt free, it’s still a struggle not to fall into it for all the reasons you describe. I choose to ignore ads, not watch media, ignore the pressures to buy buy buy, and I’m doing fine. Not rich, but not hurting anymore.

gabereiser 3y ago

We are all presented the same choices (granted from different levels of privilege) and we all make decisions. Health care costs are ridiculous, I agree, and people shouldn’t go broke if they get sick. That said, they shouldn’t be eating garbage and things that make them sick. You can’t complain that your finances are drained from cancer all while your whole life you ate Taco Bell and McDonalds. Choices have consequences. Debt is a result of that. There’s really only two maybe three kinds of good debt. Everything else is a salesman trying to get you roped into a payment scheme like you describe. It’s the ultimate bazaar, backed by the lawyers and justice system saying you agreed to pay. Don’t agree to pay for things. Stop buying crap off Facebook. Buy a used car instead of making payments on a new one. Love yourself and stop trying to keep up with the neighbors.

earthling8118 3y ago
I see this take as completely out of touch. It seems like you come from an entirely different world. Have you ever had to use the McDonald's apps for deals cheap enough to afford dinner? I love to cook and it generally saves me a lot of money but I've still been put in this situation before. Not eating garbage? That's a luxury not everyone can afford. Yes, many can afford it and still do so but that isn't all that is happening. When it comes to debt sometimes you have to. I had the option to stay where I was where I would still be making <$10/hr or take on student loan debt for a chance to have a better life. I drive a hunk of junk I paid $300 that makes me feel unsafe every time I get in it. It wobbles to hell and I have to deathgrip it to maintain control. It's probably endangering everyone on the road too. But that's what I can afford at this point in my life. Although I'd rather not own one at all because it causes a lot of financial stress to maintain. I don't buy much beyond the essentials and it's taken me a decade of constant effort to get to even this point. I've also been incredibly fortunate in many ways. There are a lot of people much worse off.
- gabereiser 3y ago
  I grew up poor, by every measure I still am. However, I don’t have the debt that others do. It’s actually cheaper to eat healthy than eat McDonald’s. I’m not talking Non-GMO, certified organic overpriced food for a guilt sale. I mean cans, beans, rice, flour, etc. Those who are struggling are continuing to attempt to do the same thing and it isn’t working for them. If you worked hard for a decade, without getting anywhere, whose fault is that? Society for keeping you down? Or you for staying so long? Everything is constant effort. I’m not talking FIRE movement, I’m just saying you don’t need that TV. You don’t need that Apple Watch. You don’t need that Tesla. I realize making atonement for your financial troubles is going to hurt even more. The other option is, like many here, start a company. I do know that it was extremely painful for me to become debt free, it’s still a struggle not to fall into it for all the reasons you describe. I choose to ignore ads, not watch media, ignore the pressures to buy buy buy, and I’m doing fine. Not rich, but not hurting anymore.