The phrasing of the squoot apology (and other similar ones) does not take responsibility for the action. It's a non-apology. It doesn't admit that they were off

The phrasing of the squoot apology (and other similar ones) does not take responsibility for the action. It's a non-apology. It doesn't admit that they were offensive but instead implies that it was only bad that others were offended. It's about the placement of blame on the offended party instead of taking responsibility. GOOD: I'm sorry that I hurt you when I punched you in the face. BAD: I'm sorry that you were hurt when I punched you in the face. The latter distances the puncher from the hurt in an unacceptable way.