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I'm taking a leap here extrapolating my own experience. I hope it might be useful. I found myself in the same end state over and over (in this case, burn out).
by tra3 3y ago
I'm taking a leap here extrapolating my own experience. I hope it might be useful.
I found myself in the same end state over and over (in this case, burn out). The two shared aspects between various situations were: me and the end result.
If different situations lead to the same end state and I'm the only common element then that implies that my own actions lead to that end state.
Specifically:
- inability to set boundaries and people pleasing ("yes I will commit to this even though I've committed to other things").
- perfectionism ("I need to spend a week on this even though it was good enough after day 2").
- paulcole 3y agoThe observation on perfectionism is really good. When I interview someone now if the candidate mentions their perfectionism, I immediately say, "Tell me about the last thing you've done perfectly." Very few people have a satisfying story to tell. It usually turns out that perfectionists rarely achieve perfection! From there I talk about how we're not looking for candidates to do anything perfectly. We want candidates who can get things done to the reasonable standards we have. You can still be engaged in your work and do a great job, but if you're not getting work done because you're trying to make everything perfect, you're not going to be a good fit.