I imagine life like a chain sometimes. With many strong links representing a happy and healthy life. When you have multiple broken links though, you tend to fee

I imagine life like a chain sometimes. With many strong links representing a happy and healthy life. When you have multiple broken links though, you tend to feel lost and broken. Fixing one broken link doesn't do anything, they all need to be fixed (at least somewhat) before you can notice real progress. But, people tend to have an idea of what needs fixing. The issue is motivation tends to fall off because you don't see progress without a lot of change, and we tend not to see our own progress as clearly as others. Make relationships you can count on. Try to make every day a non-zero day. Be kind to yourself, if you can't be the parent you needed for yourself, try to be the friend you needed. Find a therapist. Like most things, having a professional's help will speed things up immeasurably. Best of luck, it may be the hardest thing you do, but it's worth it.