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Would Your Partner Cheat? These ‘Testers’ Will Give You an Answer

3 points by gnicholas 3y ago

version_five 3y ago
If I was in a superficial relationship like the ones profiled and I found out my girlfriend had hired such a service, that seems like pretty good grounds for ending it. Re responding, I think many would respond out of curiosity about what was going on, as opposed to intent to have a real physical relationship. I can in particular imagine assuming this is a scam and wanting to mess with the scammers a bit. I get random messages from "beautiful women" that I assume are scammers, maybe my loyalty is being tested...
- gnicholas 3y ago
  I'm wondering why you use the qualifier "superficial"? That is, it seems to imply you would not react as negatively if it were a long-term relationship. I get that one would not end an LTR as lightly as a STR, but in some ways it would be more offensive if it were your long-term girlfriend who did this to you, wouldn't it?
gnicholas 3y ago
I wonder what types of photos the testers use. Are they making it appear that they're very attractive, and are interested in their target? If so, they could generate false positives — they would flag someone as a potential cheater because he/she would cheat if approached by a much more attractive person (which would likely never happen in the real world). To refine the testing process, it would be a good idea to use a tester whose photos are roughly the same level of attractiveness as the target.
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rolph 3y ago
this eventually gets someone killed or severely injured. Othello syndrome: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23066764/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23066764/ Phenomenology and predisposing factors of morbid jealousy in a psychiatric outdoor: a cross-sectional, descriptive study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6625799/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6625799/
haspoken 3y ago
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Would Your Partner Cheat? These ‘Testers’ Will Give You an Answer

3 points by gnicholas 3y ago

version_five 3y ago
If I was in a superficial relationship like the ones profiled and I found out my girlfriend had hired such a service, that seems like pretty good grounds for ending it. Re responding, I think many would respond out of curiosity about what was going on, as opposed to intent to have a real physical relationship. I can in particular imagine assuming this is a scam and wanting to mess with the scammers a bit. I get random messages from "beautiful women" that I assume are scammers, maybe my loyalty is being tested...
- gnicholas 3y ago
  I'm wondering why you use the qualifier "superficial"? That is, it seems to imply you would not react as negatively if it were a long-term relationship. I get that one would not end an LTR as lightly as a STR, but in some ways it would be more offensive if it were your long-term girlfriend who did this to you, wouldn't it?
gnicholas 3y ago
I wonder what types of photos the testers use. Are they making it appear that they're very attractive, and are interested in their target? If so, they could generate false positives — they would flag someone as a potential cheater because he/she would cheat if approached by a much more attractive person (which would likely never happen in the real world). To refine the testing process, it would be a good idea to use a tester whose photos are roughly the same level of attractiveness as the target.
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rolph 3y ago
this eventually gets someone killed or severely injured. Othello syndrome: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23066764/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23066764/ Phenomenology and predisposing factors of morbid jealousy in a psychiatric outdoor: a cross-sectional, descriptive study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6625799/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6625799/
haspoken 3y ago
https://archive.is/0hOJb https://archive.is/0hOJb