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I want to say thank you for sharing your experience. As someone who also feels forced to function due to outside pressure, it's interesting to hear others talk

I want to say thank you for sharing your experience. As someone who also feels forced to function due to outside pressure, it's interesting to hear others talk about their experiences. One thing I've naively assumed, is that having kids will awaken some instinctual facet of my psyche to respond to the stimuli inherit in having young children. Maybe that is still _likely_ true, but your experience was that nothing about your internal clock fundamentally changed? Today is a perfect example. It's 10pm currently and I need to wake up in 9 hours and be walking out the door in 9.5 to make it to the office in time. On the 3 days I do not go to the office, I don't roll out of bed until maybe 15 minutes before our daily stand up at 9:30am. Even then, I might just get up with enough time to go to the bathroom and unlock my laptop. I should be getting into bed now, but I still need to take a shower and wind down. I'll be lucky if I'm asleep by midnight. One thing that has changed since I was a kid, is that I can fall asleep in just a few minutes if I make a conscious effort. Unfortunately, that doesn't translate into better sleep quality as a whole, but it certainly takes one piece off of the table that many struggle with. This ended up being ramble-y, but again, thank you!

Sinnytk 3y ago
And thank you for going on that ramble. Resonates with me so much
skinner927 3y ago
I can relate whole heartedly to this. Children can change how you think about time, but they can’t change your biological clock. My sweet spot for waking up is 9:30am to 11:30am and I do my best work from 9pm to 2am. That bio clock doesn’t work with children. Stimulants might be your only salvation.
TeMPOraL 3y ago
> Maybe that is still _likely_ true, but your experience was that nothing about your internal clock fundamentally changed? Nope. The only thing that changed is that my 報復性熬夜 (revenge bedtime procrastination) went into overdrive and I'm nearly incapable of going to sleep before midnight now. Which is probably the reverse of what you're hoping for. > One thing that has changed since I was a kid, is that I can fall asleep in just a few minutes if I make a conscious effort. For me, it's a bit of a wash. I no longer get stuck in the loop of getting stressed over how little sleep time I have left, preventing me from falling asleep - a constant in high school. But how fast I fall asleep now depends on how tired and relaxed I am. Since latter hardly happens, it's mostly a function of sleep deprivation - i.e. I can fall asleep in minutes, provided I'm systematically undersleeping. Otherwise, it's a coin toss. Cooling down the bedroom helps - recent heat waves made falling asleep hard for me until I made the connection and started firing up A/C at night.

Sinnytk 3y ago

And thank you for going on that ramble. Resonates with me so much

skinner927 3y ago

I can relate whole heartedly to this. Children can change how you think about time, but they can’t change your biological clock. My sweet spot for waking up is 9:30am to 11:30am and I do my best work from 9pm to 2am. That bio clock doesn’t work with children. Stimulants might be your only salvation.

TeMPOraL 3y ago

> Maybe that is still _likely_ true, but your experience was that nothing about your internal clock fundamentally changed? Nope. The only thing that changed is that my 報復性熬夜 (revenge bedtime procrastination) went into overdrive and I'm nearly incapable of going to sleep before midnight now. Which is probably the reverse of what you're hoping for. > One thing that has changed since I was a kid, is that I can fall asleep in just a few minutes if I make a conscious effort. For me, it's a bit of a wash. I no longer get stuck in the loop of getting stressed over how little sleep time I have left, preventing me from falling asleep - a constant in high school. But how fast I fall asleep now depends on how tired and relaxed I am. Since latter hardly happens, it's mostly a function of sleep deprivation - i.e. I can fall asleep in minutes, provided I'm systematically undersleeping. Otherwise, it's a coin toss. Cooling down the bedroom helps - recent heat waves made falling asleep hard for me until I made the connection and started firing up A/C at night.