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Life just sucks and my experience has been that it has gotten progressively worse. In 20s at least i had the consolation of being young but bow at early 30s th

Life just sucks and my experience has been that it has gotten progressively worse. In 20s at least i had the consolation of being young but bow at early 30s there’s just nothing much to look forward to. It’s just a drag

arpa 3y ago
welcome to life! Isn't it exciting?
WJW 3y ago
Can't confirm tbh. I'm now in my late thirties and enjoying life quite a bit. Definitely better than when I was in my twenties. Looking forward to hopefully another 40+ years of this.
- bowsamic 3y ago
  Unsurprisingly, not everyone is mentally ill
  - coolThingsFirst 3y ago
    Pretty sure mentally ill people go on HN to insult people with whose opinions they don't agree with
    - bowsamic 3y ago
      Mentally well people do that too
      - coolThingsFirst 3y ago
        Seek help
        bowsamic 3y ago
        I am, but why do you say this?
        coolThingsFirst 3y ago
        You equated dissatisfaction with life as a mental illness. Tons of mentally well people share the view. It's everywhere in the spiritual traditions.
        bowsamic 3y ago
        I'm not really interested in that.
siva7 3y ago
I can relate but i can also say that there is a good chance that you will dig yourself out of this hole if you don't give up. I did and i enjoy my life now.
codr7 3y ago
I hear you. But it can, and likely will, change eventually. New experiences change perspective if nothing else. Being young, naive and confused wasn't all that great if you ask me. I have no idea why some people have to go through this process though...
- datavirtue 3y ago
  When I was young I looked forward to everything. No matter what, nothing could get me down. I assumed everything was always on the upswing and I was going to live forever. Unbridled optimism. A husk of that still lives on but I'm really stoic.
stef25 3y ago
Dude, I'm 45 ... 30 is nothing. I had the best years of my life between 20-40. And after that it only deteriorated (depression, substance abuse) because of bad relationships and choices I made.
michael1999 3y ago
Sure, your 20s is the end of the easy part. Between natural growth of your body, and the hot-house environment of organized schooling, you can't help but grow. You become more capable and aware each year just by living. But you leave the greenhouse in your 30s. Your hormones stabilize, and the impersonal bureaucracies around you are more interested in extracting value than improving you. You miss it because youth is wasted on the young. As an adult, any growth, or increase in personal capacity will only happen as the result of choices and actions you make. But you might be very surprised how much you can still grow. It is cliche, but I've watched a lot of men turn 40 and 50, and they are either in the best shape of their life, or heading downhill and picking up steam.
- JeremyNT 3y ago
  I really do like this conception of things. It's a lame truism but "life is what you make of it." At first everything is new, mere existence is the act of discovery and growth. As you age more you must have more intention behind your actions. Learn topics you understand on a surface level more deeply, invest more in relationships and in truly understanding relatives and partners, push yourself physically in directions you hadn't considered. There are still a lot of ways to continue to grow, even as the novelty of existence wears off and your body begins to age.
datavirtue 3y ago
I was driving up to my country home from work one day at 33 when it hit me. I will never experience anything better than I already have. Beautiful loving wife, a healthy boy and girl, a quiet country home. Peace, security, food, clean water, a comfortable home and friends, boundless education. I was right. It was all down hill from there. I make twenty times more money now, and it only matters to me as a way to prevent my family from want. The best has come and gone. My remaining mission is to alleviate human suffering and die without suffering myself. I can't really blame people for the silly shit they do (check Google News for examples). Most have never had or even come close to the privilege and love I have experienced--or maybe someone shielded them from the consequences of their actions, which makes for intolerable adults. For me to judge them using the experience I know would be ridiculous. I remember my consciousness snapping into its current state one day at three years old--like a sudden awakening. Since that moment in that old farm house in Ohio, my existence has left me in awe. My older brother was aborted. My younger brother was born with a life threatening disease. All the men in my family are dead, save for myself and my oldest cousin, due to the import of heroin following our most recent war (the price of oil is very high). It's lonely now and tough to look forward.

arpa 3y ago

welcome to life! Isn't it exciting?

WJW 3y ago

Can't confirm tbh. I'm now in my late thirties and enjoying life quite a bit. Definitely better than when I was in my twenties. Looking forward to hopefully another 40+ years of this.

bowsamic 3y ago
Unsurprisingly, not everyone is mentally ill
- coolThingsFirst 3y ago
  Pretty sure mentally ill people go on HN to insult people with whose opinions they don't agree with
  - bowsamic 3y ago
    Mentally well people do that too
    - coolThingsFirst 3y ago
      Seek help
      - bowsamic 3y ago
        I am, but why do you say this?
        coolThingsFirst 3y ago
        You equated dissatisfaction with life as a mental illness. Tons of mentally well people share the view. It's everywhere in the spiritual traditions.
        bowsamic 3y ago
        I'm not really interested in that.

siva7 3y ago

I can relate but i can also say that there is a good chance that you will dig yourself out of this hole if you don't give up. I did and i enjoy my life now.

codr7 3y ago

I hear you. But it can, and likely will, change eventually. New experiences change perspective if nothing else. Being young, naive and confused wasn't all that great if you ask me. I have no idea why some people have to go through this process though...

datavirtue 3y ago
When I was young I looked forward to everything. No matter what, nothing could get me down. I assumed everything was always on the upswing and I was going to live forever. Unbridled optimism. A husk of that still lives on but I'm really stoic.

stef25 3y ago

Dude, I'm 45 ... 30 is nothing. I had the best years of my life between 20-40. And after that it only deteriorated (depression, substance abuse) because of bad relationships and choices I made.

michael1999 3y ago

Sure, your 20s is the end of the easy part. Between natural growth of your body, and the hot-house environment of organized schooling, you can't help but grow. You become more capable and aware each year just by living. But you leave the greenhouse in your 30s. Your hormones stabilize, and the impersonal bureaucracies around you are more interested in extracting value than improving you. You miss it because youth is wasted on the young. As an adult, any growth, or increase in personal capacity will only happen as the result of choices and actions you make. But you might be very surprised how much you can still grow. It is cliche, but I've watched a lot of men turn 40 and 50, and they are either in the best shape of their life, or heading downhill and picking up steam.

JeremyNT 3y ago
I really do like this conception of things. It's a lame truism but "life is what you make of it." At first everything is new, mere existence is the act of discovery and growth. As you age more you must have more intention behind your actions. Learn topics you understand on a surface level more deeply, invest more in relationships and in truly understanding relatives and partners, push yourself physically in directions you hadn't considered. There are still a lot of ways to continue to grow, even as the novelty of existence wears off and your body begins to age.

datavirtue 3y ago

I was driving up to my country home from work one day at 33 when it hit me. I will never experience anything better than I already have. Beautiful loving wife, a healthy boy and girl, a quiet country home. Peace, security, food, clean water, a comfortable home and friends, boundless education. I was right. It was all down hill from there. I make twenty times more money now, and it only matters to me as a way to prevent my family from want. The best has come and gone. My remaining mission is to alleviate human suffering and die without suffering myself. I can't really blame people for the silly shit they do (check Google News for examples). Most have never had or even come close to the privilege and love I have experienced--or maybe someone shielded them from the consequences of their actions, which makes for intolerable adults. For me to judge them using the experience I know would be ridiculous. I remember my consciousness snapping into its current state one day at three years old--like a sudden awakening. Since that moment in that old farm house in Ohio, my existence has left me in awe. My older brother was aborted. My younger brother was born with a life threatening disease. All the men in my family are dead, save for myself and my oldest cousin, due to the import of heroin following our most recent war (the price of oil is very high). It's lonely now and tough to look forward.