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Ok but everyone here is defining "community" and "social aspect" differently. Do people here mean "community" in a very narrow sense of "attending a religious
by smcin 3y ago
Ok but everyone here is defining "community" and "social aspect" differently.
Do people here mean "community" in a very narrow sense of "attending a religious service for one hour a week standing in a huge room beside a thousand others who are essentially strangers"? Not like "group of friends and neighbors"? Or "not just a church focused on extracting tithes and acquiring new members", but "is genuinely concerned with its members' wellbeing, has programs and events, pastors/mentors know who their members are"? Or a more hands-off "members get a sense that they could call them if they ever needed help"?
> If you're a strange face in a small church, everyone is going to start a conversation to welcome you.
Umm, ok, how is that bad? I'd just chat with them, limit any excessively personal disclosures or nosiness. I think the glass is half full if they simply want to get to know you without any ulterior motive [e.g. converting your entire family], that's pretty rare.
- genter 3y ago> Ok but everyone here is defining "community" and "social aspect" differently. indeed. > Umm, ok, how is that bad? Like I started my comment off with, "If you are asocial". I was really thinking of myself when I wrote that, although I'm an atheist. I think this is ridiculously difficult for some people to comprehend, and I have completely cut people out of my life because of it, but it is genuinely exhausting to have a conversation with someone, especially someone I don't know.
- smcin 3y agoI had read that you wrote asocial. The definitions I found for that were not "finding conversations with strangers exhausting", only "avoiding social interaction"; "lack of motivation to engage in social interaction, or a preference for solitary activities". Your personal experience sounds like the extreme or rarer case. (I and many people I know have been called asocial at times.) Given that context, in what ways do you find it preferable to attend a (large) church instead of streaming online, or visiting a church when a service isn't on? Does it give you a sense of community, and if so how do you define community for you?