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While I would not call it "entirely repulsive," the act of random sex has always been far less fulfilling for me. We are also some of the rare males who consid
by tdavis 18y ago
While I would not call it "entirely repulsive," the act of random sex has always been far less fulfilling for me. We are also some of the rare males who consider it possible to have "bad" sex. I collectively refer to us as: Connoisseurs ;)
That being said, I wouldn't call the average college student immature. The older I get, the more I realize that the line between "maturity" and "immaturity" is incredibly fine and not at all well defined -- and one can occasionally act immature while still maintaining maturity. It's not as simple as, "People who goof around and worry about nothing but sex and booze are immature while people who worry about making a living and reading leather-bound books are mature."
Strictly speaking, maturity in this case simply means "having reached an advanced stage of mental or emotional development characteristic of an adult." Now, given that stage, what you choose to do does not necessarily directly reflect on whether or not you've reached it. For instance, a mature person in college may realize that, all things being equal, their college years may well be the last they have to truly live care-free and without serious responsibility. Given this rationale, would you fault them for using that time to pick up random men/women, drink five nights a week, and generally just focus on having fun?
Now, if they continued this lifestyle after college perhaps they aren't mature enough to realize that they must now change their behavior in order to thrive under their new circumstances. Or, perhaps, they just don't give a damn. To me, maturity simply indicates that a person is fully aware of the ramifications of their actions and are willing to own those actions. I don't consider a 40 year old CEO any more mature than a 40 year old McDonald's worker, provided they both want to be where they are and know exactly how they got there. Would you say that Lester from American Beauty one day became immature or finally mature? Or neither? Or both?
- PieSquared 18y agoAnd there's an even finer line between immature and just fun-loving...
- evilneanderthal 18y agoI agree with everything you said, except about Lester. Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't he completely give up providing for his daughter, and then try to have sex with her ( ? 16 : 17) year old friend? Part of being mature is living up to one's promises and responsibilities. Also, not being a creepy old dude and trying to nail 16 year olds.
- unalone 18y agoMy problem isn't with students that are completely into casual sex. In fact, that's what I was imagining: people who are completely open and honest about what they want. Instead, I find that most college students are either in denial or they let themselves get carried too far. The people here are always in it to get back at a boyfriend or they're too drunk to realize just what they're doing. That's what I can't stand. I think that people who worry about livings and books are often just as bad, to be fair. I switched out of an English major because I realized that the people I knew going for English were often really out-of-sync with the real world and were really unpleasant people. I moved to a major that had a few people who were really with it, and formed a group there. I've never seen American Beauty. Would you recommend it?
- tdavis 18y agoOh, well if you're referring to petty, childish stuff like that, I have no argument. Telling the difference can be hard sometimes, so all I can really recommend is that you keep an open mind. You seem to be doing that, though. American Beauty is in my top 10 movies of all time; I recommend it highly!
- unalone 18y agoExcellent. I'll add that to my movie list (it'll take a while, right now I'm going through my year-old "extremely long TV shows" list). Or perhaps it'll come up for movie night: it's a pretty well-known movie.
- tdavis 18y agoYou won't be disappointed. The only things I'm a bigger snob about than beer and women is music and movies ;)