I've used JPlayer for some personal projects (e.g. https://github.com/pfarrell/pshare3 https://github.com/pfarrell/pshare3). It's very easy to setup and use.

I've used JPlayer for some personal projects (e.g. https://github.com/pfarrell/pshare3 https://github.com/pfarrell/pshare3). It's very easy to setup and use. I haven't gone as far as creating my own skins, but since it's all jquery and css, modifying existing ones is a no-brainer.