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Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. There are upsides to compartmentalization but fundamentally we work with humans. So no, if your job

by apsurd 3y ago

Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. There are upsides to compartmentalization but fundamentally we work with humans. So no, if your job is with humans, I don't think you can do it _better_ without intimacy. I'm not trying to be pedantic either. Maybe you just care about "good enough" and that's completely fine. But not better. I'd disagree.

jrflowers 3y ago
> Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. This is a good point. If a person doesn’t enjoy intimate hugs in the workplace, where on earth would they enjoy any sort of intimacy?
- harpiaharpyja 3y ago
  I'm guessing this is sarcasm?
- dpkirchner 3y ago
  For me, I use the number of intimate hugs I get during interviews to get a feel for how many I should expect during mandatory team lunches and stand-ups (I mean hug-ups). If I don't get a single hug from the interviewer or any other staff, I know it's a low-intimacy place and won't expect more hugs down the line.
  - jrflowers 3y ago
    Open concept office design has been a godsend for team building cuddle puddles. I hated having to go cubicle to cubicle giving out back rubs in the 90s
cultofmetatron 3y ago
no thanks. intimacy is a minefield when you have trouble reading people like me. especially in an office. some people get uncomfortable if you get to close. some don't like it if you aren't close enough. With women its even worse! I've had my body language be misinterpreted one too many times and it stresses me out. Give me remote where I can keep a professional distance where I don't need to worry about making anyone uncomfortable.
- wintogreen74 3y ago
  Intimacy is not just about close physical interaction, it's about building trust, empathy and understanding. It helps us assume the best and not jump on any comment assuming the absolute worst... you know, kind of the opposite of the entire internet.
  - Dalewyn 3y ago
    Work is where we go to be professionals. If I need to be personal in the workplace, that is plainly unprofessional and I am quitting because I like a clear line between my personal and professional life.

by apsurd 3y ago

jrflowers 3y ago

> Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. This is a good point. If a person doesn’t enjoy intimate hugs in the workplace, where on earth would they enjoy any sort of intimacy?

harpiaharpyja 3y ago
I'm guessing this is sarcasm?
dpkirchner 3y ago
For me, I use the number of intimate hugs I get during interviews to get a feel for how many I should expect during mandatory team lunches and stand-ups (I mean hug-ups). If I don't get a single hug from the interviewer or any other staff, I know it's a low-intimacy place and won't expect more hugs down the line.
- jrflowers 3y ago
  Open concept office design has been a godsend for team building cuddle puddles. I hated having to go cubicle to cubicle giving out back rubs in the 90s

cultofmetatron 3y ago

no thanks. intimacy is a minefield when you have trouble reading people like me. especially in an office. some people get uncomfortable if you get to close. some don't like it if you aren't close enough. With women its even worse! I've had my body language be misinterpreted one too many times and it stresses me out. Give me remote where I can keep a professional distance where I don't need to worry about making anyone uncomfortable.

wintogreen74 3y ago
Intimacy is not just about close physical interaction, it's about building trust, empathy and understanding. It helps us assume the best and not jump on any comment assuming the absolute worst... you know, kind of the opposite of the entire internet.
- Dalewyn 3y ago
  Work is where we go to be professionals. If I need to be personal in the workplace, that is plainly unprofessional and I am quitting because I like a clear line between my personal and professional life.