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> I shake your hands. You feel my hand shaking. I give you a hug, and you feel my intimacy. Yeah, no thanks bro, I'm good. I can do my job very well without fe

> I shake your hands. You feel my hand shaking. I give you a hug, and you feel my intimacy. Yeah, no thanks bro, I'm good. I can do my job very well without feeling anyone's intimacy, thank you very much.

willcipriano 3y ago
When I think of the office I think about intimate hugs. Can't get any work done over all the intimate hugs around the water cooler.
- resolutebat 3y ago
  Maybe try the intimate hug next to the water cooler instead?
  - kaliqi_ 3y ago
    or just intimately hug the water cooler.
    - abawany 3y ago
      It's going to leave you cold.
      - Dalewyn 3y ago
        The water cooler is infinitely warmer than any co-worker because the water cooler will never screw me over.
xwdv 3y ago
I don’t know why they think only good things happen when people see each other in person. In person you can be sexually harassed. Or if there’s a bad meeting, you might feel intimidated by my simmering rage. What if someone goes postal?
- wintogreen74 3y ago
  Without any sort of stats or reference I'm confident saying far more sexual harassment happens online. The vast majority is not physical contact. >> What if someone goes postal? The LACK of intimacy (and the empathy and trust that it's composed of) is what leads to "going postal", often driven directly by remote interactions. This is why the thin piece of glass in a car windshield allows otherwise civil people to experience road rage.
apsurd 3y ago
Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. There are upsides to compartmentalization but fundamentally we work with humans. So no, if your job is with humans, I don't think you can do it _better_ without intimacy. I'm not trying to be pedantic either. Maybe you just care about "good enough" and that's completely fine. But not better. I'd disagree.
- jrflowers 3y ago
  > Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. This is a good point. If a person doesn’t enjoy intimate hugs in the workplace, where on earth would they enjoy any sort of intimacy?
  - harpiaharpyja 3y ago
    I'm guessing this is sarcasm?
  - dpkirchner 3y ago
    For me, I use the number of intimate hugs I get during interviews to get a feel for how many I should expect during mandatory team lunches and stand-ups (I mean hug-ups). If I don't get a single hug from the interviewer or any other staff, I know it's a low-intimacy place and won't expect more hugs down the line.
    - jrflowers 3y ago
      Open concept office design has been a godsend for team building cuddle puddles. I hated having to go cubicle to cubicle giving out back rubs in the 90s
- cultofmetatron 3y ago
  no thanks. intimacy is a minefield when you have trouble reading people like me. especially in an office. some people get uncomfortable if you get to close. some don't like it if you aren't close enough. With women its even worse! I've had my body language be misinterpreted one too many times and it stresses me out. Give me remote where I can keep a professional distance where I don't need to worry about making anyone uncomfortable.
afavour 3y ago
Intimacy is definitely the wrong word but even as someone 100% in favour of remote work I will admit that in person bonding and teamwork is superior to remote.

willcipriano 3y ago

When I think of the office I think about intimate hugs. Can't get any work done over all the intimate hugs around the water cooler.

resolutebat 3y ago
Maybe try the intimate hug next to the water cooler instead?
- kaliqi_ 3y ago
  or just intimately hug the water cooler.
  - abawany 3y ago
    It's going to leave you cold.
    - Dalewyn 3y ago
      The water cooler is infinitely warmer than any co-worker because the water cooler will never screw me over.

xwdv 3y ago

I don’t know why they think only good things happen when people see each other in person. In person you can be sexually harassed. Or if there’s a bad meeting, you might feel intimidated by my simmering rage. What if someone goes postal?

wintogreen74 3y ago
Without any sort of stats or reference I'm confident saying far more sexual harassment happens online. The vast majority is not physical contact. >> What if someone goes postal? The LACK of intimacy (and the empathy and trust that it's composed of) is what leads to "going postal", often driven directly by remote interactions. This is why the thin piece of glass in a car windshield allows otherwise civil people to experience road rage.

apsurd 3y ago

Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. There are upsides to compartmentalization but fundamentally we work with humans. So no, if your job is with humans, I don't think you can do it _better_ without intimacy. I'm not trying to be pedantic either. Maybe you just care about "good enough" and that's completely fine. But not better. I'd disagree.

jrflowers 3y ago
> Your reply makes it seem like you're allergic to intimacy. This is a good point. If a person doesn’t enjoy intimate hugs in the workplace, where on earth would they enjoy any sort of intimacy?
- harpiaharpyja 3y ago
  I'm guessing this is sarcasm?
- dpkirchner 3y ago
  For me, I use the number of intimate hugs I get during interviews to get a feel for how many I should expect during mandatory team lunches and stand-ups (I mean hug-ups). If I don't get a single hug from the interviewer or any other staff, I know it's a low-intimacy place and won't expect more hugs down the line.
  - jrflowers 3y ago
    Open concept office design has been a godsend for team building cuddle puddles. I hated having to go cubicle to cubicle giving out back rubs in the 90s
cultofmetatron 3y ago
no thanks. intimacy is a minefield when you have trouble reading people like me. especially in an office. some people get uncomfortable if you get to close. some don't like it if you aren't close enough. With women its even worse! I've had my body language be misinterpreted one too many times and it stresses me out. Give me remote where I can keep a professional distance where I don't need to worry about making anyone uncomfortable.

afavour 3y ago

Intimacy is definitely the wrong word but even as someone 100% in favour of remote work I will admit that in person bonding and teamwork is superior to remote.