> I’m not “armchair diagnosing” anyone, I’m just dealing with people. If you're not armchair diagnosing anybody, then we don't have any disagreement. If you'

> I’m not “armchair diagnosing” anyone, I’m just dealing with people. If you're not armchair diagnosing anybody, then we don't have any disagreement. If you're classifying people as NPD on the same day you met them, that's what I'm arguing against. Doing so isn't helpful and you don't have enough information about that person to even do it properly. Even when you do have enough information about that person, like a long-term friend or family member, and yet also enough personal distance from the situation to limit your biases, it's rarely a useful thing to do. It might help you feel better about a failed relationship, which is what a lot of people seem to use NPD for, but these are not real diagnoses.