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> No. Nothing is an urgency. False. There needs to be a break through "this is actually an emergency" way to get through silent mode. My wife keeps her phone

by donatj 3y ago

> No. Nothing is an urgency. False. There needs to be a break through "this is actually an emergency" way to get through silent mode. My wife keeps her phone silent at all times and on two separate occasions I have had actual emergencies and been unable to reach her. (A car crash where my car was totaled and a separate medical emergency) It's actually infuriating.

rob 3y ago
On iPhone, there's an "Emergency Bypass" toggle for each contact which I think would solve this.
mongol 3y ago
I think I have seen a setting like that on my phone, but now I can't find it. Two calls in a row should break through, I think. At least for numbers in my phonebook
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lucb1e 3y ago
Similar for my partner, though it was never a real emergency but rather things like asking what I should bring for dinner (they're particular about food): things that are useful for them as well as for me. I always had to wait for them to randomly look at their phone, which could be any time because nothing ever made any buzz or noise. (Conversely, they did call me a few times during what were actual emergencies for them, such as a car crash.) We had a conversation and they configured their phone differently ~3 years ago. I asked them just now (look, OP, I talked to someone synchronously!) and they say it's "fine" - me: "just fine?" - them: "no it's good actually" and they'd set it up again if they had to re-make the choice. I am conscious of when I invoke the power, as with everyone, but still call somewhat regularly, so their positive rating is a good sign I suppose. Have you brought this up with your partner? Either way, yeah, this sort of thing is something you talk about only after you identify there is a problem. Ideally we'd have good defaults, and while I disagree with OP on their proposal for new defaults, their opinion is clearly borne from frustration. Perhaps phones should, when a contact calls you once while on silent, create a silent notification that asks "Allow <contact> to ring phone when calling twice within one minute?" with as buttons [No] [Buzz] and [Ring]
LK5ZJwMwgBbHuVI 3y ago
Me: going into the store after finishing up a call, call my wife to try and find her My wife: phone on silent Me: wander around the store for 5 minutes to find her My wife: oh sorry my phone was on silent
gwbas1c 3y ago
I think the point of "No. Nothing is an urgency" is for the kind of people who think that everything is an emergency; or who don't have the mental capacity to triage that their emergency is not my emergency. I can think of many examples: Around 2012-2014, there was an Amber Alert that went off in the SF Bay Area in the middle of the night. Almost everyone's phone went off. Although it was an emergency, there was no need to wake up a few million people. More mundane: At an old job that used Teams, there was no way to silence groups that I wanted to follow, but didn't need alerts for.

by donatj 3y ago

rob 3y ago

On iPhone, there's an "Emergency Bypass" toggle for each contact which I think would solve this.

mongol 3y ago

I think I have seen a setting like that on my phone, but now I can't find it. Two calls in a row should break through, I think. At least for numbers in my phonebook

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lucb1e 3y ago

Similar for my partner, though it was never a real emergency but rather things like asking what I should bring for dinner (they're particular about food): things that are useful for them as well as for me. I always had to wait for them to randomly look at their phone, which could be any time because nothing ever made any buzz or noise. (Conversely, they did call me a few times during what were actual emergencies for them, such as a car crash.) We had a conversation and they configured their phone differently ~3 years ago. I asked them just now (look, OP, I talked to someone synchronously!) and they say it's "fine" - me: "just fine?" - them: "no it's good actually" and they'd set it up again if they had to re-make the choice. I am conscious of when I invoke the power, as with everyone, but still call somewhat regularly, so their positive rating is a good sign I suppose. Have you brought this up with your partner? Either way, yeah, this sort of thing is something you talk about only after you identify there is a problem. Ideally we'd have good defaults, and while I disagree with OP on their proposal for new defaults, their opinion is clearly borne from frustration. Perhaps phones should, when a contact calls you once while on silent, create a silent notification that asks "Allow <contact> to ring phone when calling twice within one minute?" with as buttons [No] [Buzz] and [Ring]

LK5ZJwMwgBbHuVI 3y ago

Me: going into the store after finishing up a call, call my wife to try and find her My wife: phone on silent Me: wander around the store for 5 minutes to find her My wife: oh sorry my phone was on silent

gwbas1c 3y ago

I think the point of "No. Nothing is an urgency" is for the kind of people who think that everything is an emergency; or who don't have the mental capacity to triage that their emergency is not my emergency. I can think of many examples: Around 2012-2014, there was an Amber Alert that went off in the SF Bay Area in the middle of the night. Almost everyone's phone went off. Although it was an emergency, there was no need to wake up a few million people. More mundane: At an old job that used Teams, there was no way to silence groups that I wanted to follow, but didn't need alerts for.