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You're fighting the good fight but I don't think you'll win this one. I am a fellow adherent to the philosophy that I am the owner of my phone, not the other wa

You're fighting the good fight but I don't think you'll win this one. I am a fellow adherent to the philosophy that I am the owner of my phone, not the other way around. Mostly people just accept that this is just an unusual preference and not a personal slight against them but I too have been on the wrong side of some angry people. I've noticed the ratio of people who are ok with it is dropping though. We are evolving a cultural expectation of 24/7 instant communications response and opting out of that is offensive for some people.

satvikpendem 3y ago
I've never seen anger from people for not responding right away (unless it's time urgent and we've discussed it beforehand, such as meeting up at a location and one party is late), and I'm relatively young. All of my friends just respond when they can, it's known that it's an asynchronous medium.
nuancebydefault 3y ago
More than half of the calls I make are not picked up immediately. Whatsapp is usually several hours of delay for a response. If it would be a day, I would not be upset, and most people aren't. I really do not understand what the fuss is all about.
em-bee 3y ago
i never had anyone complain, but if i miss a call and feel they need an explanation (maybe because it was important or urgent) then i just apologize and tell them that i have to keep my phone on silent when i work. and i prefer it silent in the evenings when i don't want to be disturbed. or kids are sleeping, etc. for in between i just forgot to turn the sound on (which is what i actually do if i am expecting a call) that covers most of the waking time, so if they want to argue that's a hint that they are probably not very good friends. and if they are not friends to begin with then i just tell them to stuff it. they are not my boss and i am not here to do their bidding, and i already apologized to forgetting to turn the sound on when expecting their call.
- verve_rat 3y ago
  I agree, just say you were in the loo and didn't want to talk to them from the toilet. Or in the shower. Or driving somewhere. Most people understand that, and you don't want to talk to the people that don't.

satvikpendem 3y ago

I've never seen anger from people for not responding right away (unless it's time urgent and we've discussed it beforehand, such as meeting up at a location and one party is late), and I'm relatively young. All of my friends just respond when they can, it's known that it's an asynchronous medium.

nuancebydefault 3y ago

More than half of the calls I make are not picked up immediately. Whatsapp is usually several hours of delay for a response. If it would be a day, I would not be upset, and most people aren't. I really do not understand what the fuss is all about.

em-bee 3y ago

i never had anyone complain, but if i miss a call and feel they need an explanation (maybe because it was important or urgent) then i just apologize and tell them that i have to keep my phone on silent when i work. and i prefer it silent in the evenings when i don't want to be disturbed. or kids are sleeping, etc. for in between i just forgot to turn the sound on (which is what i actually do if i am expecting a call) that covers most of the waking time, so if they want to argue that's a hint that they are probably not very good friends. and if they are not friends to begin with then i just tell them to stuff it. they are not my boss and i am not here to do their bidding, and i already apologized to forgetting to turn the sound on when expecting their call.

verve_rat 3y ago
I agree, just say you were in the loo and didn't want to talk to them from the toilet. Or in the shower. Or driving somewhere. Most people understand that, and you don't want to talk to the people that don't.