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> Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediately noticed less matches, less convos, and the app being more pu
by latchkey 3y ago
> Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediately noticed less matches, less convos, and the app being more pushy.
They also filter you based on age. When I turned 40+, everything changed in terms of presentation and matches literally the next day.
- strulovich 3y agoIsn’t turning 40 just likely to remove you from all users filtering up to 39, which sounds like a natural setting many users would choose?
- latchkey 3y agoOften those settings are ignored or fuzzy. Tinder also doesn't show you what someone else's settings are, so you can't game that. When I'd set my age ranges to 30+, I'd still see people younger than that because the person on the other end would put older ranges in. It is kind of a two way fuzzy search engine. I built a super popular dating app right before Tinder came onto the market... our search was intentionally pretty fuzzy in this regard.
- water9 3y agoNo, it’s not. You’re either both in each other’s ranges or one of you has the selection that says sometimes show people outside this range
- latchkey 3y agoShow me the code.
- water9 3y agoIf you could see the code, that’s the code you’d want to look at? I wanna see what my world ranking is lol
- latchkey 3y agoMy point is show me the proof. None of the details of how their app works are public and you're telling me what I've seen from personal experience, isn't true.
- Gud 3y agoWhat you describe matches perfectly with most users just putting their preferred age to 25-40 or something. No need to blame Tinder here.
- latchkey 3y agoNo kidding. I'm not blaming Tinder, I'm describing my experience.
- Kerb_ 3y agoUnless I'm missing something, you haven't proved it's fuzzy either though. Many of these apps have a "make this setting strict" switch for age and distance, that makes both of you half right.
- latchkey 3y agoMaybe the part you're missing is that we are talking about Tinder from the response to the OP, downwards. We are not fuzzily talking about 'many of these apps'.
- Kerb_ 3y agoMaybe the part you're missing from my comment is that you have proven just as little yourself, and there is precedent for both. Because you want to ignore that and nitpick that I mentioned other apps doing the same thing, as if that prevents Tinder from doing it, I went out of my way to get a screenshot of my own Tinder settings. What do you know? It's right here. "Only show people in this range" https://imgur.com/a/yt34L2b https://imgur.com/a/yt34L2b Upon further reflection, I'm just going with "they were actually correct".
- LtWorf 3y agoI worked for a dating app. They are scum. Having worked there I could game their algorithms quite well.
- latchkey 3y ago#metoo
- lancesells 3y agoDon't you think it's the user settings doing that to you? As in people setting their ages preferences on decades?
- toomuchtodo 3y agoYou don’t look a day over 35 on a dating app.
- WalterBright 3y agoI've been 29 for decades.
- latchkey 3y agoAh yes, I totally want to find the love of my life and start it off with a lie about my age.
- toomuchtodo 3y agoPlay to win. You want to get in front of someone before a competing dating market participant does, and people are tolerant of “white lies” when necessary (“dating apps are the worst amirite?”). If you can’t excuse it away, work on your sales skills. Hate the fact that third spaces have evaporated and you need a dating app to meaningfully participate in the dating marketplace, not that you have to take liberties with facts to increase your opportunities and potential to close into a relationship. Tangentially, love is grown, not found. Find someone you can grow to love (ie trust and mutual respect, shared values and belief systems).
- latchkey 3y agoI met my ex-wife on Match. Things didn't work out in the long run (10 years) between us for reasons that had absolutely nothing to do with online dating. But, I certainly know that if I had lied initially, it would have never worked from the start. Your attitude on this matter ("play to win" and "work on your sales skills") is what makes the whole scene really horrible. I feel for your partner, I wonder if they realize that is your train of thought. After saying what you did, I find your advice at the end contradicts what you said above. "play to win"... but grow love with trust after lying about my age? Weird.
- frandroid 3y agoHarsh. You'd think they would work this on a spectrum...