At the same time, as someone very prone to this kind of behavior, with siblings with similar issues to talk to, we've all found that few attempts at helping are

At the same time, as someone very prone to this kind of behavior, with siblings with similar issues to talk to, we've all found that few attempts at helping are more frustrating than being told "just remember that you don't need to be anxious". The entire point is that in the moment that just doesn't work. It's kind of like telling a person with ADHD to just pay attention.