Dijjt, I do have some empathy for you. I'm on the spectrum but only mildly. You're right that social cues are complex and inconsistent. But it's not helpful t

Dijjt, I do have some empathy for you. I'm on the spectrum but only mildly. You're right that social cues are complex and inconsistent. But it's not helpful to the autistic community to suggest that they are unable to learn how not to be an asshole - in online, or irl communities. I know many that started with struggles, but learned how to handle it. The trick was wanting to try. To decide that the empty annoying irritating things that allstics do are not malicious either. And that social interaction is like the rules of a very complex game. It takes time, it takes effort, it takes humility. I don't know you so I would never presume what your situation is. But I know of several people in my life who are on the spectrum that I got close to before I realized that they genuinely have no interest in self improvement, and they use their autistic diagnostic as a cover to see themselves as above petty human social squabbles, and that their assholishness is a mark of pride that they use to refuse to better themselves. I hope that's not where you are at.