There's something not mentioned in the article in either the household or healthcare examples that I kept hoping the author would mention and use to wrap up. I

There's something not mentioned in the article in either the household or healthcare examples that I kept hoping the author would mention and use to wrap up. In my head I call it high impedance relationship/work it's jumbled together in my head just like impedance is reactive and resistive. Your circuit can work just fine but a high impedance is more sensitive to external factors (external stress) than a low impedance device. Even just the act of monitoring it with an oscilloscope can affect the signal or voltage. You fix this, not by driving more power (mental energy, more chores whatever) but by balancing the inputs and outputs (grossly oversimplifying here) If you want to do work a certain way and your partner or coworker can only accept work that looks like theirs then that's a related but separate problem. You decide your partner is overworked at home so suggest hiring a house cleaner, they protest that it would cost too much and "we can do it ourselves if you would just chip in" or let's get rid of our picture books because we have no room on our bookshelves and our kids are all teenagers but "I want to save them for the grandchildren" or I'll cook breakfast every morning but "then we have to wake up early and eat at 7:00 a.m. instead of wolfing down something 3 minutes before leaving." When the other person will only accept work that looks like theirs it's really a mismatch in growth vs fixed mindset. That said, a temporary dedication to matching their work can give them space to see the other solutions and come out of the fixed mindset. Like all hard problems, a flexible approach is better than hard and fast rules.