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> What am I missing? That not everyone is as solution-oriented as you, and that being solution-oriented isn’t inherently superior.

brutusborn 3y ago
I get that I may think differently, but I still don’t understand why being solution-oriented isn’t superior? What’s the point of reading and writing if not to learn things about the world to help reduce suffering through solutions? I guess you can just read and write for the enjoyment of it, but it seems weird to do so in a case where there is a huge potential to reduce suffering though sharing knowledge.
- jdlshore 3y ago
  You have a massive blind spot here. As one solution-oriented person to another, please make it a goal to understand and fix this blind spot. It will make you more successful in life, and will make you more effective at implementing your solutions, too. I’m a consultant, and my job is getting people to change their software development processes so they are more effective. In the early days, that included things like “use source control.” Now, my advice is more subtle. Regardless, the job hasn’t changed. You might think that such a job involves showing people an obviously better way, and then helping while they put the idea into practice. I thought so too, at first. Narrator voice: It does not. First and foremost, the job is making an emotional connection with people so they want to change. Convincing them that you’re on their side, that you understand their world, and that you have their best interests at heart. Ultimately, it requires empathy. If you continue to approach problems without empathy, continue to dismiss people who take a people-centric rather than solution-centric view of the world, and continue to devalue the simple pleasures people take from doing things that don’t solve problems… you will be much less effective in life than you otherwise could be.
  - QuantumGood 3y ago
    As teachers for over thirty years, my wife and I have a saying "nothing changes until motivations and behavior change". Motivations don't respond to logic well. Lots of people wonder why they have limited success in areas they have a lot of knowledge and interest Behavior changes are even tougher, usually meaning new behaviors can often only piggyback on existing habits. We think that if we think it, we will do it, but lots of factors slow us down, including misunderstanding procrastination and the far-reaching effects of improving sleep and diet.
aaron695 3y ago
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brutusborn 3y ago

I get that I may think differently, but I still don’t understand why being solution-oriented isn’t superior? What’s the point of reading and writing if not to learn things about the world to help reduce suffering through solutions? I guess you can just read and write for the enjoyment of it, but it seems weird to do so in a case where there is a huge potential to reduce suffering though sharing knowledge.

jdlshore 3y ago
You have a massive blind spot here. As one solution-oriented person to another, please make it a goal to understand and fix this blind spot. It will make you more successful in life, and will make you more effective at implementing your solutions, too. I’m a consultant, and my job is getting people to change their software development processes so they are more effective. In the early days, that included things like “use source control.” Now, my advice is more subtle. Regardless, the job hasn’t changed. You might think that such a job involves showing people an obviously better way, and then helping while they put the idea into practice. I thought so too, at first. Narrator voice: It does not. First and foremost, the job is making an emotional connection with people so they want to change. Convincing them that you’re on their side, that you understand their world, and that you have their best interests at heart. Ultimately, it requires empathy. If you continue to approach problems without empathy, continue to dismiss people who take a people-centric rather than solution-centric view of the world, and continue to devalue the simple pleasures people take from doing things that don’t solve problems… you will be much less effective in life than you otherwise could be.
- QuantumGood 3y ago
  As teachers for over thirty years, my wife and I have a saying "nothing changes until motivations and behavior change". Motivations don't respond to logic well. Lots of people wonder why they have limited success in areas they have a lot of knowledge and interest Behavior changes are even tougher, usually meaning new behaviors can often only piggyback on existing habits. We think that if we think it, we will do it, but lots of factors slow us down, including misunderstanding procrastination and the far-reaching effects of improving sleep and diet.

aaron695 3y ago

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