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Most people don't have the ability to choose what affects us emotionally. We can learn to build resilience and get less reactive, but we can't just turn off our
by sethaurus 3y ago
Most people don't have the ability to choose what affects us emotionally. We can learn to build resilience and get less reactive, but we can't just turn off our emotional reactions completely.
If you can do that, it sounds great. For most people, they cannot do this and cannot be taught to.
- apple4ever 3y agoI disagree. It's not easy to choose, but it very much is possible, they can do it, and they get much can be taught to do so.
- talldatethrow 3y agoIf a homeless person said "you're a loser and a failure! You disgust me!", would you really care? I think not. Apply that to every other idiot. Unless what they're saying is actually true, well then that's up to you. I've been a bit fat before. A few people, friends and my mother, called me out on it. It was a helpful reminder that other people see it too. Now I'm not longer fat. Now, if they kept saying it to me daily... I'd think "ok these people are just being mean spirited.. that's not a good person.. and I don't care what mean spirited people have to say because they'll always find something." I think it's a skill worth learning, instead of reminding both victims and their abusers that the words do matter. It hurts the victims more and empowers the abusers.