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Just to toss this out there: the reverse is also true. We get along well with all of our neighbors except one. We say "hi" and invite each other over regularly.

Just to toss this out there: the reverse is also true. We get along well with all of our neighbors except one. We say "hi" and invite each other over regularly. That one bad neighbor is a real problem, and a huge source of stress and unhappiness.

ssully 3y ago
Big time. I have a neighbor about half a block from me that would harass me when I would walk my dogs by his house. Based on his behavior I assume he struggles with some mental issues. The one positive is I avoid his house completely, so now my standard dog walking route is a block longer, so more exercise for me and the dogs.
- datavirtue 3y ago
  We have one particular neighbor who would greet everyone and chat with them. He was always out walking his little dog. Very nice. Next thing you know, someone is freaked out, posting a Ring video of him violently knocking on their front door (that was it, nothing else). It was so strange seeing this unfold on camera. Nearly everyone has talked to this guy and thought he was very nice. The people who's door he was banging on didn't know/recognize him. I'm guessing he has some sort of mental health challenges--though he does own and maintain a nice home on our street. Since the incident he has not been out. I saw him in his yard and noticed he looked a bit agitated. Very sad. I think this country is in serious need of a mental health framework that can actually help people. As it stands now, if this behavior escalates at all he will be faced by the police. Zero help.
  - basisword 3y ago
    Those doorbells should be banned. Numerous times I’ve seen videos posted on local Facebook groups of completely innocuous situations that freaked out some paranoid curtain twitcher. Recently someone posted a video of a kid knocking her door: “Anyone know who this is? I think they’re up to something”.
- ryandrake 3y ago
  This is a good point. There seems to be a lot of untreated mental illness nowadays. Or maybe we're just encountering it more because everything is filmed and sites like r/PublicFreakout exist. Or maybe the pandemic really screwed some people up. Who knows? I had an Amazon package mistakenly delivered to my house. I recognized the address of one of my (unknown) neighbors a few doors down, and I had time, so I walked it down to their door.. Maybe I'll finally meet this unknown family. I knocked on their door, holding the package, and let me just explain something that's important: I'm a slightly overweight nerd that spends too much time in his office chair. I'm about as threatening looking as a Best Buy worker in his khakis. Well, through the window next to the front door, I saw one of the home's occupants (a young lady probably early 20s) just standing there looking at me through the window, apparently not knowing what to do. I knocked on the door again and gestured towards the Amazon box in my hand. Well the woman let out a shriek from the bowels of hell and damnation, like terrified. Picture Donald Sutherland in Invasion Of The Body Snatchers. I'm just standing there trying to hand a package to a neighbor and she is screaming over and over and over and looking at me like I'm a serial killer. I put the box down on the front porch and backed away. I heard the screaming long after I got down the driveway to the road. I don't know what's wrong with people. Maybe this person has some kind of traumatic past and can't bear to even see other people. I don't know. This didn't seem like even remotely a thing 10 or 20 years ago.
rhyme-boss 3y ago
In the past year three close neighbors who I was friendly with moved out and the couples that moved in have been so rude and shitty. It's been such a massive quality of life decline, and just feels like terrible luck.
- danenania 3y ago
  Yeah, it's amazing how much difference this factor can make in quality of life, yet it's mostly left up to luck. When moving and choosing a place, you can try to get some idea of the vibe and whether it seems neighborly at all, but it's very hard to get more than a cursory sense. I'd take a modest house surrounded by friendly/awesome people compared to a much nicer house surrounded by rude/stuck-up people any day.
  - elwell 3y ago
    My new neighbors have a german shepard. As I write this at 2:50am, it has been barking since around 11pm. I've never heard a dog bark so consistently for so long. I'm blasting rain noise on my laptop but this is driving me crazy.
    - rhyme-boss 3y ago
      That blows, I bet that's loud as hell. I'd file a nuisance complaint with your city's 3-1-1 service to get the ball rolling. Some people just don't care enough to hire a professional to help them with dog behavior issues and it's just not acceptable.

ssully 3y ago

Big time. I have a neighbor about half a block from me that would harass me when I would walk my dogs by his house. Based on his behavior I assume he struggles with some mental issues. The one positive is I avoid his house completely, so now my standard dog walking route is a block longer, so more exercise for me and the dogs.

datavirtue 3y ago
We have one particular neighbor who would greet everyone and chat with them. He was always out walking his little dog. Very nice. Next thing you know, someone is freaked out, posting a Ring video of him violently knocking on their front door (that was it, nothing else). It was so strange seeing this unfold on camera. Nearly everyone has talked to this guy and thought he was very nice. The people who's door he was banging on didn't know/recognize him. I'm guessing he has some sort of mental health challenges--though he does own and maintain a nice home on our street. Since the incident he has not been out. I saw him in his yard and noticed he looked a bit agitated. Very sad. I think this country is in serious need of a mental health framework that can actually help people. As it stands now, if this behavior escalates at all he will be faced by the police. Zero help.
- basisword 3y ago
  Those doorbells should be banned. Numerous times I’ve seen videos posted on local Facebook groups of completely innocuous situations that freaked out some paranoid curtain twitcher. Recently someone posted a video of a kid knocking her door: “Anyone know who this is? I think they’re up to something”.
ryandrake 3y ago
This is a good point. There seems to be a lot of untreated mental illness nowadays. Or maybe we're just encountering it more because everything is filmed and sites like r/PublicFreakout exist. Or maybe the pandemic really screwed some people up. Who knows? I had an Amazon package mistakenly delivered to my house. I recognized the address of one of my (unknown) neighbors a few doors down, and I had time, so I walked it down to their door.. Maybe I'll finally meet this unknown family. I knocked on their door, holding the package, and let me just explain something that's important: I'm a slightly overweight nerd that spends too much time in his office chair. I'm about as threatening looking as a Best Buy worker in his khakis. Well, through the window next to the front door, I saw one of the home's occupants (a young lady probably early 20s) just standing there looking at me through the window, apparently not knowing what to do. I knocked on the door again and gestured towards the Amazon box in my hand. Well the woman let out a shriek from the bowels of hell and damnation, like terrified. Picture Donald Sutherland in Invasion Of The Body Snatchers. I'm just standing there trying to hand a package to a neighbor and she is screaming over and over and over and looking at me like I'm a serial killer. I put the box down on the front porch and backed away. I heard the screaming long after I got down the driveway to the road. I don't know what's wrong with people. Maybe this person has some kind of traumatic past and can't bear to even see other people. I don't know. This didn't seem like even remotely a thing 10 or 20 years ago.

rhyme-boss 3y ago

In the past year three close neighbors who I was friendly with moved out and the couples that moved in have been so rude and shitty. It's been such a massive quality of life decline, and just feels like terrible luck.

danenania 3y ago
Yeah, it's amazing how much difference this factor can make in quality of life, yet it's mostly left up to luck. When moving and choosing a place, you can try to get some idea of the vibe and whether it seems neighborly at all, but it's very hard to get more than a cursory sense. I'd take a modest house surrounded by friendly/awesome people compared to a much nicer house surrounded by rude/stuck-up people any day.
- elwell 3y ago
  My new neighbors have a german shepard. As I write this at 2:50am, it has been barking since around 11pm. I've never heard a dog bark so consistently for so long. I'm blasting rain noise on my laptop but this is driving me crazy.
  - rhyme-boss 3y ago
    That blows, I bet that's loud as hell. I'd file a nuisance complaint with your city's 3-1-1 service to get the ball rolling. Some people just don't care enough to hire a professional to help them with dog behavior issues and it's just not acceptable.