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For me personally, people who try to talk at me this way get mentally noted as low-key malicious. Like PUA for the workplace.
by none_to_remain 3y ago
For me personally, people who try to talk at me this way get mentally noted as low-key malicious. Like PUA for the workplace.
- felurx 3y agoWhy? Of course, someone might just be toxic. But if someone is actively trying to repair a relationship, wouldn't it be better for everyone to see it as that and try and reciprocate?
- Scarblac 3y agoMaybe it's the difference between trying to sound friendly and actually being friendly. If it's noticeable that someone is using an unusual way of talking, the first impression is that it's merely the first, and insincere.
- cma 3y agoLook at the speech patterns of the boss in Office Space, they are somewhat similarly passive aggressive sounding to the rewording advice in the article.
- Cthulhu_ 3y agoIt's a difficult one; it's clearly NOT natural behaviour for a lot of people, that is, it becomes learned behaviour. But because you're aware of it being learned behaviour - techniques people pick up from a book or website - anyone doing it instantly flags up as being untruthful. Example; some twenty years ago I learned this "factoid" that if you hold your palm downwards when giving a handshake (like turn your hand inwards), you will come across as dominant and assertive. Cue loads of people trying an awkward downward handshake. But to me it comes across as "I am trying to dominate you", and instantly dislike the person. It's like Trump yanking people in when giving a handshake.