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I tend to have this problem but only with certain people... Ironically though, I find that people who distrust me are often themselves untrustworthy and they ar
by jongjong 3y ago
I tend to have this problem but only with certain people... Ironically though, I find that people who distrust me are often themselves untrustworthy and they are projecting. I think maybe it's because I have an unusual personality with high confidence but without status-seeking which makes certain people distrust me and doubt my motives. I often talk myself down and openly criticize my own decisions when they were subpar - I'm thinking that this combination of confidence and self-criticizing throws most people off. Most successful people only talk themselves up and shift blame when they make a mistake.
- cf141q5325 3y agoIt might help you to know that a lot of people are living predominantly via creating identities through social learning with a high focus on their ego (and the resulting reactions). Joscha Bach referenced it in his recent Lex Fridman appearance (#392) if you are curious. "Stages of Life", "Identity", "Enlightenment" and "How we think" are the relevant segments if i recall correctly.