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I didn't misread it, at least I did read it as 'or', I just don't like that either. Yes I will reply Hey no sweat yeah just doing your job cheers whatever - but

by OJFord 3y ago

I didn't misread it, at least I did read it as 'or', I just don't like that either. Yes I will reply Hey no sweat yeah just doing your job cheers whatever - but it's definitely making me feel even worse than I already was about whatever the negative thing was you had to say to me in the first place. The whole thing is just making it more about the counterparty, like they're the real victim for having unfortunately to give you this bad news - it's not their fault you did the bad thing after all! I'm afraid the Reddit parlance is lost on me, what's YTA & ESH?

tayo42 3y ago
You're the asshole Everyone sucks here
- tptacek 3y ago
  (There's a whole, very popular, subreddit dedicated to adjudicating "NTA", "ESH", "YTA", and "NAH" in a variety of user-submitted scenarios. It's a hoot.)
  - TylerE 3y ago
    It’s kinda tanked recently. Lots of very obviously made up stories.
tptacek 3y ago
Team members should reflect on interactions and give a quick sanity check to whether they may have come across rude, condescending, or aggrieved. And, if they have to ask, they should ask. You, as someone who shares the role of "team member", should be prepared to hear those check-ins in the spirit they're intended: as acknowledgements that everybody agrees that it's not OK to be rude or passive-aggressive. You don't have to absolve people: if they were rude, you can say "thanks, I did take that comment as a little hostile, and I'm glad it wasn't just me."