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The Center for Nonviolent Communication has some potentially useful ideas about this: https://www.cnvc.org/ https://www.cnvc.org/ Start with active listening b
by m0llusk 3y ago
The Center for Nonviolent Communication has some potentially useful ideas about this: https://www.cnvc.org/ https://www.cnvc.org/
Start with active listening by not interrupting and then confirm with the speaker what you think you heard them say. And so on. There is a community apart from the web site and the core book is worth a read.
- Seattle3503 3y agoIt is interesting you mention interruption, because the original NVC book endorses certain kinds of interruptions. "Would you rather have someone pretend to listen, or to interrupt?"
- stefandesu 3y ago> "Would you rather have someone pretend to listen, or to interrupt?" This is very interesting. In my experience, it applies especially to people who just can't. stop. talking. When someone gives you literally no chance to say anything (not even a few words), it's really hard to actually keep listening. So I have to either pretend to listen (but my thoughts are drifting off) or start interrupting, which I hate doing.
- zestyping 3y agoDeciding when you need to interrupt, and interrupting in a way that shows you care about what the other person is saying, is a really important skill. I didn't realize the value of it until I took an NVC class, because I had previously assumed interrupting was always bad. But, when done well, it can be extremely helpful, not only for improving your understanding but also building connection with the other person.