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Not what I said. All I said was, if you've never had someone close to you end their life or die suddenly, then you don't get what pain you cause by flippant re

• palish 18y ago
  "Not what I said." "... I hope you forgive yourself for the stupid shit you said today." He's asking for your forgiveness, and based on what you're saying, it sounds like you won't forgive him, and you feel that he shouldn't forgive himself. I'm saying, that's a bad mindset to have. That same kind of hatred has spawned many wars, for example. I understand you're emotional about this, and I'm sorry for whatever losses you've experienced. But try to restrain yourself, act rationally, and communicate clearly.
  • sgrove 18y ago
    Oh, I don't know. I obviously think it was a bit crass, but it probably seemed like a reasonable enough thing to say. Just didn't go over well. But at the same time, I look back on some of the stupid things I've said and done, and it bothers me again and again. I'll be working on something completely non-related, and some scene of my stupidity pops into my head, and I feel embarrassed all over again. It's not particularly useful, and I would just as soon forget it altogether. That's how I took the comment about forgiving himself later: he may come to regret making a callous remark, and have a hard time understanding that it was a simple off-the-cuff remark. Either way, it's not such a big deal. He apologized, took responsibility, and will probably attempt to post with a bit more foresight in the near future.