Second that, reading through the article felt like looking in a mirror. It's helpful to be more self-conscious about one's flaws, at least you can spot yourself

Second that, reading through the article felt like looking in a mirror. It's helpful to be more self-conscious about one's flaws, at least you can spot yourself doing the thing and get a chance at reversing course. To people who also see themselves here, but weren't fortunate enough to be working with a smart and compassionate manager: - Listen to the feedback from your peers. Go have after-work beers if a more formal setting doesn't work. - Figure out if you can move horizontally within your org, to a position where either your flaws won't be getting as much in your or someone else's way, or - if you're brave - to a less comfortable position, where you need to face and fix them. - Show the article to your manager! Understanding is an acquired thing.