I like the article. But I have to say I was looking for someone outgoing to match my very talkative personality. And I’m glad that plan failed. I have been ma

I like the article. But I have to say I was looking for someone outgoing to match my very talkative personality. And I’m glad that plan failed. I have been married 32 years. On my first date, I talked non-stop. She said almost nothing. We were married a few weeks later. Turns out she wanted to be with someone who was good at talking. She wanted a verbal protector. And it turns out I didn’t mind learning to speak softly around her and to leave a lot of silence around my sentences in case she wanted to respond. My wife and I are complementary in many things. She is non-technical and believes in magic… But we do share bedrock values: generosity, forgiveness, respect, duty, traditional gender roles, and the belief that neither of us can be happy if the other is miserable. But I would not have predicted I would marry an introvert so shy that she secretly stalked me until she was sure I was husband material before revealing herself.