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Agreed. We are what we give our time to, and to those that would "brag" about how many hours a week they work, I ask "so, you are just your job, and nothing mor
by 0xEF 3y ago
Agreed. We are what we give our time to, and to those that would "brag" about how many hours a week they work, I ask "so, you are just your job, and nothing more?"
When I meet a new person, one of my first questions is what hobbies they have. It throws people off more often than it should that my first question is not about work, and in fact, I specifically avoid talking about work at all. In many of those cases, the conversation dies very quickly, which always makes me a bit sad.
It's not like I hate my job, either. I enjoy it, to the degree that I can, and do wish I had a better tech job, but for the most part it is tolerable and I am left to my own devices. I can talk about work, if someone asks, but mentally, when I am clocked out, my job doesn't exist. I suppose there are lots of people who always think about work, for lack of anything better, I guess.
- acuozzo 3y ago> When I meet a new person, one of my first questions is what hobbies they have Same here(!), as a chronic collector of hobbies. With that being said, within the past year I've added body maintenance (i.e., diet/exercise/enough-sleep) into my daily schedule and I've yet to recover from the loss in time. It's starting to make me feel like Mr. Rat Race. Granted, I have three children (9/6/4) and work full-time, but in the recent past I had more time to devote to doing the things I love. Do you have any suggestions?
- 0xEF 3y agoI don't realy have any suggestions other than constantly examine how you spend your time, and make adjustments wherd needed. Some examples I can think of are: 1. Try to find ways to combine your exercise time and spending time with your kids. Lots of activities such as sports, martial arts, hiking, etc, might work here. 2. Classify your hobbies and interests into "passive" and "productive." For example, I love reading old science fiction. I also love tinkering with electronics. Reading books is fun, but does produce lasting results in me the way that learning new stuff by building gadgets does. So, I make more time for my workbench, and my reading is reserved for times when I want a bit of entertainment, but can't be at the workbench (such as on lunch at work). 3. Check your screentime. It's disturbingly easy for us to lie about how much time we actually waste on our smartphones, computers and televisions. Every few months I have to start jotting down times I sit down to my computer, or get an app to track my YouTube watching, just to keep things to a minimum. These days it's less, but it took awhile to build that mindfulness and set up some mental pivot points for when I've had enough Internet for the day. I have no idea if any of this will help you. We all have different values and needs that factor in to how we spent our most precious resource; time. As a fellow dad (although my kid is an adult now), I'd say make most of that time about your kids. You might be surprised how much you grow as a person just by doing that, although with 3 kids, I imagine you already have a pretty good idea about that!