I've avoided all conferences and work trips to the U.S. since 2003. Next year my wife's cousin is getting married in NY and I really don't want to go -- purely

I've avoided all conferences and work trips to the U.S. since 2003. Next year my wife's cousin is getting married in NY and I really don't want to go -- purely because of the hostile airport security It's generally not about the practical implications (there aren't any, most tourists pass through fine) but about the theoretical possibilities and the implication that I'm only visiting so I can blow something up, or that I've strapped C4 to my 4yo daughter who must be xray'd or patted-down.