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I dunno mate, I think adults should be able to handle being chortled at. You're responsible for your own emotional state. If you've done something laughable (or
by thegrimmest 3y ago
I dunno mate, I think adults should be able to handle being chortled at. You're responsible for your own emotional state. If you've done something laughable (or even if you haven't), then don't be surprised when people laugh. Taking it personally is optional and not recommended.
- atq2119 3y agoI agree that people shouldn't be too thin-skinned, it's still important to stay civil and supportive. Being able to clearly and unambiguously convey that a change sucks while not hurting the other person's feeling is a useful skill to practice. (It's okay to fail at it, too, as long as you're aware that that's almost always a weakness.)
- thegrimmest 3y agoThe issue is the broad, ambiguous, definitions of things like "civil". In many cultures (eg. French, Russian) a direct, no-nonsense communication style is the default. You can just say things like "Your idea is hilariously stupid" and no one really gets bent about it. In the world of multicultural, international business, this seems like the most viable default, simply because it's the easiest to codify and communicate. Trying to teach very culturally-specific minutia of civility to a diverse staff just gets in the way. I'd rather work somewhere the burden of not being offended is placed on the listener, not the speaker. Somewhere we can just say what we think.