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Yeah and I think an issue is how engineers think vs other people. What maybe seen as rude or negative is just an engineer optimizing for efficiency or technical
by hattmall 3y ago
Yeah and I think an issue is how engineers think vs other people. What maybe seen as rude or negative is just an engineer optimizing for efficiency or technical correctness. Other people then tend to take things personally and attach emotion to situations where they are having to be corrected.
I have this play out repeatedly in my personal life. I've found I have to simply let people do the wrong things or fail a little bit and gently guide solutions. Otherwise there will be emotional pushback that entrenches their position.
- bemusedthrow75 3y ago"Optimising for efficiency" on a personal/personnel/social level is one of the most common forms of rudeness in every day life. It generally _is_ rudeness.
- NoMoreNicksLeft 3y agoPoliteness, is of course, when you hate the other person so much that you waste their time with all the various social rituals.
- Karunamon 3y agoOnly when that appreciation for optimization is not shared between all participants. It is equally correct that someone who is not interested in social minutia is having their time wasted by having it inflicted on them, and this, too, is rude.
- hooverd 3y ago> ...do the wrong things or fail a little bit and gently guide solutions That's getting someone to change their mind 101. Not an engineer exclusive insight. I think a lot of "oh engineers are so rational that's why people think we're so rude" is just post hoc rationalization for poor social skills.