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> I'd be pretty annoyed, as a child or not, if at every turn I'd be asked to retrospect about an accomplishment or even a failure. I’m the complete opposite. I
by gretch 3y ago
> I'd be pretty annoyed, as a child or not, if at every turn I'd be asked to retrospect about an accomplishment or even a failure.
I’m the complete opposite. I might be irritated if people made me relive a sore defeat too soon, but I love “stewing” in the victories.
If people ask me “amazing win man, how’d you do it?”, I’d revel in retelling the story, especially if I took a shot and was clever. “They all said my way wouldn’t work but I showed them”
- simonsaysso 3y agoHa, and I’m the opposite in a different direction. I _hate_ positive feedback. What motivates me is failure and a fear of failure. I go out of my way to downplay accomplishments but will talk your ear off about how and why I failed or almost failed or knew about a failure condition. Maybe the actual takeaway is to figure out what kind of feedback a child responds best to and use that most of the time. You know, paying attention to the kid.