I don't believe that. And in fact, you have two examples right here (me and the person I was responding to) where we were told "don't do X" and we didn't. I kn

I don't believe that. And in fact, you have two examples right here (me and the person I was responding to) where we were told "don't do X" and we didn't. I know everyone says it, but I think "kids do the opposite" is pop-psych BS. I've never met a balanced a person who'd say "I just did the opposite of what my parents told me". I only know of examples where invariably the kids are disturbed also in other ways, and so it's impossible to disentangle cause and effect. People just repeat nonsense they hear with no basis whatsoever, and so BS propagates.