The adults are the ones making the culture. But by the time you're a twenty-something, you're the one making choices for your own behavior, regardless of who fa

The adults are the ones making the culture. But by the time you're a twenty-something, you're the one making choices for your own behavior, regardless of who failed you or not. I dearly wish our system helped make that clear to the 19 year olds emerging into higher education. I suspect that the 19 year-olds joining the workforce instead have it tougher and are already a long way toward understanding that. I will certainly take a portion of that responsibility. I am doing what I can with my own child. Work hard, teach strategies for self-control, strategies for understanding and dealing with adversity... But the hardest work of all as a parent is being the kind of person you want your child to be. They're going to emulate the behavior of the adults around them no matter what you say. The single greatest thing you can do to mold your child into a good person, is to show them you mean it by adopting those behaviors. The same goes for being a career manager, or faculty in school, I suppose.