Dealing with kids with special needs can be a challenge. And is definitely a 1 out of 30 difficulty you are describing. I’ve had “regular” kids, and special nee

Dealing with kids with special needs can be a challenge. And is definitely a 1 out of 30 difficulty you are describing. I’ve had “regular” kids, and special needs kids I took care off, the difference of emotional energy needed to take care of them is incomparable. Normal kids, feel as almost no work to me to be honest. They can have emotional moods of a 2-3 years old up till teenage years. The biggest thing to live a happy life, even just for yourself is to not get emotional, best is to not even raise your voice. Anger, even mild, is extremely draining to yourself. And makes the kids feels terrible, even if they look blank to it, creating a vicious cycle. Leave expectations out of the door. Don't expect reciprocity. Be extremely consistent, make sure you’re schedule is easygoing. Steps of dealing with an emotional escapades: 1. Get them out of the situation. Best is physically, but don't do it agressively if possible. They get a chance to reset. Do not ever correct kids in front of other kids. 2. Acknowledge their feeling. Start with understanding. 3. Explain why and how it’s no acceptable. But don't tell them they are wrong, focus on their behaviour; and give them an acceptable way out. 4. Only allow them to return to their wanted activity if they act appropriately again. That can be in their room, timeout, at times you have to get creative. And also very important: get them out of stimulating situations (such as parties or busy playgrounds) half an hour before they normally would be overstimulated. When overstimulated, these kids normally need 1 hour, till sleep time to fully get back to normal.