I've had parents, and enough therapy to know how they fucked me up. I have friends who are in similar situations and who are comfortable discussing such topics.

I've had parents, and enough therapy to know how they fucked me up. I have friends who are in similar situations and who are comfortable discussing such topics. Arguably this is a much more productive way to develop a better perspective on how to raise children than any given parent, whom we cannot guarantee have the same kinds of insights. I think it's a right view that parents don't trust the advice of other parents proferred willy-nilly, but then apparently desperate and exasperated parents see no other options and so keep reaching for the same failing systems and directives that float around in the zeitgeist. I suggest to look within, and act through empathy.