The three skills presented here are useful and deal strictly with shaping behaviour. I would add some random personal observations: 1) Being more predictable al

The three skills presented here are useful and deal strictly with shaping behaviour. I would add some random personal observations: 1) Being more predictable also involves being more available and predictable about trying to understand the seemingly wildly fluctuating emotions to which kids are prone. So I’d argue that predictably “seeking first to understand then be understood” is a way of building empathy and trust. 2) What works at one stage of life doesn’t necessarily work at another. Teens, for example, have much more complex lives and the levers you can pull are different. 3) Where possible predictably offering choice builds a sense of agency and self-efficacy. 4) The author acknowledges that socioeconomic disadvantage can cause this to go off the rails. To that I would just say there are 1001 ways it can fall apart. Child with mental health issues. Parent with health issues. Any life changes. Fortunately, kids are pretty resilient if they have one or more trusted adults in their lives who are empathic , caring and reasonably predictable.