I think it's worth mentioning that you seem to be in an argument that I see again and again. I am mostly on your side here - it is not for the child to work ar

I think it's worth mentioning that you seem to be in an argument that I see again and again. I am mostly on your side here - it is not for the child to work around the parent and this is a sea chnage in (western?) psychology that is filtering through to even idiots like me. And yea it is part of the culture war we are (always) going through. So yes, we need to up the game on parenting and personal responsibility- it's going to be a tough ride as we find out just how bad most of our families are - but the upside is good too. However I think we need to also find different words - abuse is a strong term. And most of the reaction I think you are getting here is reaction to specific words as opposed to your philosophy